from http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2007/03/21/why-some-people-almost-always-are-successful/
Like everyone else I´ve spent some time thinking
about why some people are so successful in life. And what factors in success
that are under more personal control than others.
Successful people might be intelligent. Or have had
a socially well connected upbringings. Or be naturally energetic and open and
positive.
But a lot of the factors that make some people more
successful at almost anything in life are very much under their control. And
much can be improved in anyone’s life by learning from the people that have gone
before us.
Here are some of the thoughts on success that I´ve
come up with from reading/watching documentaries throughout the years about
people such as Michael Jordan, Thomas Edison, Eleanor Roosevelt and Henry Ford.
The following factors of success are just a few and I´m quite sure there are a
lot more.
They make decisions and take
action
Right or
wrong action, they take it. Either way it’s always better than making no
decisions and taking no action at all. As Franklin Roosevelt said:
“It is common sense to take a method and try it. If
it fails, admit it frankly and try another. But above all, try
something.”
They do things even when they don´t feel like
it
I
think this is a pretty huge factor. A lot of us back down when we don´t want to
do something, even though it may eventually bring us to a wonderful experience
or goal. Successful people may not always like doing some of the things they
have to do. But they do them anyway. And in the longer run that makes all the
difference.
They do the most productive thing right
now
Instead of
trapping themselves in doing productive but not so important tasks or projects
they realise what’s most important and do that. And after they´re done with that
they do what´s most important again. Instead of just doing a lot of things, they
think and plan before they act and try to focus as much as possible of their
thoughts and actions on those few very important things.
They do one thing at a time
Many of them don´t seem to
multi-task. Some reasons for avoiding that may be that it creates internal
confusion, wastes time and spreads the multi-tasker too thinly. Instead, they do
one thing and focus on that until it is done. Then they do the next thing until
it is done. Focusing 100% on one task at a time will get it done quicker and
better.
They have a positive attitude
A negative attitude can be
very damaging and limiting to one´s life. A positive one can open new doors
every day. It can open your mind to new ideas and input and create or sustain
great relationships. It helps you through the hard times as a successful person
often sees an opportunity within what others would merely see as a problem.
Have a look at Take
The Postivity Challenge for more thoughts and practical tips for creating a
more positive attitude.
They have redefined failure
While a lot of people see
failure as a way to rationalizing the feeling of wanting to giving up or as a
sign that it´s actually time to do something else successful people tend to see
it more as useful feedback. They may not like to fail, but they don´t fear it –
or at least they have little fear of it - and they know that if they fail
they´ve been there before and they can start over again and succeed. This is of
course a very useful belief and keeps successful people going while the rest
have already given up.
They don´t let fear hold them
back
They
overcome fear and slay that dragon whenever they face it. Or they may have
defined or redefined reality so that fear is substantially decreased or even
gone in some areas of their life.
Doing this enables you to take action on your
thoughts. This pulls down the barriers in the mind and create new roads and
opens up to whole new possibilities. Have a look at 5
Life-Changing Keys to Overcoming Your Fear for more on both slaying your
dragons and redefining your reality to contain less fear.
They have found a purpose in
life
They
are internally driven rather than externally driven. They do what they have a
burning desire to do rather than conforming to what others think they should do.
Even if what the others think may be positive and successful stuff.
The Michael Jordans, the Edisons and the Stephen
Kings have figured out what they want to do in life and are doing it (or did
it).
The purpose, I think, is largely why they can keep
on going and be motivated while others may tire or just go and do something else
that they find more purposeful. The successes love their purpose and when they
aligned with it then it seems to push them forward with enthusiasm and energy
through life.
They don´t get distracted
When others get too caught up
in everyday life to do what they really want to do the successes don´t. They can
really focus on actually doing what´s important and what needs to be done.
Again, this seems to go back to having a purpose and more clear sense of
direction in life.
They value their time highly and plan it out
well
A lot of people don´t value their time that much. Successful people have
a purpose in life and therefore they do. They have so much they want and an
inner urge to do it and therefore need to plan well to use their days
effectively.
They´ve got awesome communication-skills
So very
much of what we do in life has to do with other people. So it seems quite
obvious that to be successful you´ll probably have to have good or great
communication-skills (or hire someone that has such skills).
People skills is fortunately something anyone can
improve and develop. Have a look at Do
You Do these 10 Mistakes in a Conversation and How
to Make a Great First Impression for some useful tips.
They have an open mind and are willing to
learn
Successful people take the time to study and learn – and often seem to
really like doing it - what is necessary to improve their skills. They are open
to thoughts, suggestions, solutions, new information and change rather than
thinking they already know everything, that there is not much more to learn and
that everything should be as it has always been.
What to focus on?
Now, what factors are the most important ones,
where should one focus the energy? I am currently focusing on improving my
ability to take action, doing what I may not feel like doing and doing the most
productive thing right now. To me it seems like these three factors are very
important and since they are pretty interconnected they are easy to
combine.
I think what you should focus on varies a lot. And
it’s up to everyone to figure that out for themselves. But if you´re anything
like me you probably already know what areas you need to work on.